Which Fruit Are YOU?

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered…

Why am I different?

It’s a silent battle so many of us face; comparing ourselves to others, shrinking parts of who we are to fit into society’s invisible mold.

But today, I am offering you a fresh perspective.

One that starts not in a self-help book… but in your kitchen.

Let’s talk about the strawberry and the tomato.

The Strawberry is cute.

Petite.

Sweet.

She fits beautifully on top of a cake or dipped in chocolate.

She’s photogenic.

Universally loved.

Always the “pretty one.”

If the strawberry were a person, society would adore it.

"It’s just the right size.”

“It’s elegant.”

“It’s the ideal.”

However, the tomato is round.

Juicy.

Bold in flavor.

People often don’t even recognize it as a fruit.

If the tomato were a person, it might hear:“You’re too much.”

“You’re hard to define.”

“You don’t fit what we expect.”

And so, it’s overlooked.

Misclassified.

Misunderstood.

But here’s the thing: the tomato brings depth, nourishment, and strength to every dish it’s in. It may not be dessert, but it’s the foundation of some meals.

When did we let society decide what beauty is?

When did “slim, soft, and sweet” become more valuable than “bold, deep, and strong”?

Why do we praise one shape, one energy, one expression of humankind, while silencing the rest?

The truth is…

Both fruits are whole.

Both are valuable.

Both are enough.

Just like you.

The danger isn’t just in how society sees us.It’s in how we start seeing ourselves.

The tomato may begin to think:

• Maybe I’m not good enough…

• Maybe I need to change to be accepted…

• Maybe my shape is a problem…

This is where the real healing begins. Not in changing how others see you, but in changing how you see yourself.

Ask yourself…

• What “fruit” have I been trying to be in someone else’s story?

• Where in my life do I feel the pressure to shrink or soften myself?

• What labels have I accepted that don’t reflect my truth?

• What messages do I repeat to myself that were never mine to begin with?

• If I spoke to myself like someone I love, what would change?

• What parts of me have I been hiding to be more acceptable?

• How do I define my value beyond looks and approval?

• What would it feel like to fully embrace my own flavor without apology?

The world needs strawberries. But it also desperately needs tomatoes.

It needs your roundness, your spice, your grounded presence. It needs the version of you that doesn’t fit in the box, but feeds people’s souls.

So stop comparing yourself to someone else’s highlight reel.

You were never meant to be sweet for everyone.

You were meant to be true to yourself.

THINK ABOUT IT…

If this spoke to you, consider joining one of my upcoming self-worth and emotional self-care workshops, or book a 1:1 coaching session to explore these reflections personally.