Our Behavioral Makeup

Makeup isn’t a bad thing, it’s a form of expression. Likewise, behaviors

aren’t fundamentally wrong, but it’s about why we do what we do.

While concealer temporarily hides flaws, we often hide our emotional

wounds or personal struggles behind certain behaviors such as humor,

overworking, and avoidance. The highlighter draws attention to the best

features. Similarly, we love to show our accomplishments, kindness, and

confidence, but only the refined parts. Sometimes, makeup can be bold.

We may exaggerate parts of ourselves to fit in or to feel validated like

people-pleasing, perfectionism, and constant optimism. Applying makeup

daily is like putting on a “mask” every morning, pretending everything’s fine,

suppressing emotions, or going along with others. Social media and

societal standards pressure us to look flawless and behave flawlessly. The

moment we take off our makeup is freeing and intimate. Also, choosing

vulnerability and authenticity can be healing though scary.

That’s why from now on, when we are aware of certain behaviors in a

particular situation, let’s close our eyes, pause for a moment, take a deep

breath and reflect on some of the below mentioned questions:

• What behaviors do I use to “conceal” parts of myself?

• When was the last time I “highlighted” a strength to feel seen or

loved?

• Which aspects of my personality am I highlighting to fit in or feel

safe?

• What emotional makeup do I put on in social settings, at work, or in

relationships?

• How do I feel when I’m completely authentic without any acting nor

pretending?

• What would it mean for me to be seen as I am, unfiltered?

• What kind of “makeup” do I wear in relationships?

• How do I know when I’m hiding versus when I’m expressing myself?

Whether we’re highlighting our strengths or hiding our insecurities, our

behaviors tell a story. The blog isn’t inviting you to stop using “makeup,” but

to become conscious of what makes us reach for it.

THINK ABOUT IT...