Giving

In every relationship, whether romantic, professional, family, or social, there is an exchange of time, energy, attention, love, or support.

Some of us are natural givers.

We check in.

We show up.

We go the extra mile.

And often, we do so quietly, without asking for anything in return.

But what happens when giving becomes a habit rather than a choice?

When our emotional generosity turns into an expectation from others?

Not all people give at the same pace nor with the same depth.

Some give because they love deeply.Some give because they are afraid of losing people.Some give because that’s how they learned to prove their worth.

On the other hand, some receive easily. They lean on others, rely on their kindness, and sometimes take more than they give back, consciously or not.

This creates an imbalance. And over time, the giver starts to feel drained, unappreciated, or even invisible.

Giving becomes a problem when:

• You're constantly exhausted or emotionally depleted.

• You're the one checking in, fixing things, initiating conversations.

• You start to feel resentful, yet keep giving to keep the peace.

And here's the dangerous part: sometimes we keep giving out of fear; fear of being abandoned, rejected, or deemed not enough.

When you give from an empty cup, you're not being kind.

You are being self-neglectful.

Let us diffrenciate between giving with boundaries vs. giving to please and receiving with gratitude vs. receiving with entitlement.

Healthy giving happens when it comes from abundance, not obligation.

It respects your needs, your time, your space, and your emotional energy.

Sometimes we just need to think about when to stop giving:

• You start feeling more anxious than appreciated.

• You constantly give, but feel guilty when receiving.

• You notice you are saying "YES" while your inner voice screams "NO."

It’s not about becoming selfish. It’s about becoming balanced.

Take a quiet moment to reflect:

·      What am I constantly giving and to whom?

·      What makes me feel obliged to give so much?

·      What happens if I give less?

·      Where do I need to set a boundary, not out of punishment but out of self-respect?

·      Do I allow myself to receive with grace? Or do I block others from giving back?

Being a giver is beautiful, but when giving turns into sacrificing yourself, it’s no longer healthy.

It’s a warning sign.

Your kindness doesn’t have to come at the cost of your peace.

THINK ABOUT IT…