Think of an Orange...

In life, there’s a common misconception that we can control the actions and reactions of others. We often forget that the only person we can truly control is ourselves.

Please think of the orange: no matter how much you talk to it or try to force it, it won’t squeeze itself into juice. It needs to want to release its juice. Similarly, you cannot make someone else act in a way that they are not willing to. The key here is understanding that just like the orange has its process, people also have their own will, thoughts, and timing. Control is about power and influence. But when you try to control others, you overlook that people have their independence.

Who are the people you feel you want to have control over?

What makes you want to control others?

How do you feel when you attempt to control others?

What are the long-term effects of that behavior on your relationships?

What does control give you, and what does it take away?

When you stop controlling others, you open up to more peace and acceptance. This doesn’t mean that you stop caring or setting boundaries; it just means you stop trying to change others to your will. This is a critical aspect of self-care and emotional well-being.

What would it look like for you to let go of control over certain situations?

How might your life change if you learned to accept others as they are, without trying to change them?

How can you create space for others to grow and act without feeling

responsible for their actions?

Often, the need to control comes from not having clear boundaries. Boundaries are an essential part of self-care and emotional health. By setting healthy boundaries, you can create an environment that fosters growth, both for yourself and for others.

What boundaries do you have in your relationships?

When your boundaries are crossed, how do you usually react?

How can you start implementing healthier boundaries, even if it feels uncomfortable at first?

Always remember that you cannot control others; you can control how you react, manage your emotions, and choose to show up in situations. It’s about taking responsibility for your choices and actions rather than trying to manipulate or control those around you.

What aspects of your life are within your control?

How can you focus on improving your actions instead of trying to control others?

Trusting the process is essential in life. Just like the orange has its timing for ripening, people also have their path to walk. When we stop trying to control the outcome, we allow life to unfold in its way.

How can you raise more trust in the natural flow of life?

What do you need to release to trust others more deeply?

How can you support people around you in their growth without trying to force them to change?

Trying to control others is a never-ending struggle. It leads to frustration, disappointment, and broken relationships. By shifting your focus to self-care, setting boundaries, and trusting others,

You can create healthier and more fulfilling connections.

Remember, control starts with you, and true peace comes from letting go.

THINK ABOUT IT…